Improve the Intimacy with your wife in 4 different ways. Despite a deep and intense love for your wife, you may still want to see an improvement in your intimacy. After all, what man doesn't want good sex?
If you want to improve your intimacy with your wife, it is important to know that you have a number of different options. Unfortunately, many men automatically start think of the bedroom. Yes, you do want to “wow,” your wife in the bedroom, but that is not all that sex and intimacy is about. In fact, that is where many marriages go wrong. Too much focus is placed on the sex or the lack of it.
To help you properly improve your intimacy with your wife, please continue reading on. A few easy to implement, yet successful approaches are highlighted below for your convenience.
1 – Date Her
If you have been married for a number of years now, do you honestly remember when your last “real,” date was. Unfortunately, many men underestimate the power of a date. You will not want to make this mistake. If you opt just for the sex, your wife may start to feel like it is her responsibility to please you and this is not how a relationship should work.
Romantic Movie
To not only improve your satisfaction in the bed, but to improve your wife’s satisfaction, take her out on a date. Many times, getting out of the house is enough to bring new excitement into a relationship. For the best level of success, choose a romantic date theme, such as a fancy dinner, a romantic movie, or a night at a nice hotel.
2 – Compliment Her
When is the last time that you have paid your wife a truly nice and unique compliment? If it has been a while, it is time for you to start again. Is your wife wearing a new outfit? Has she recently started a weight loss plan? Did your wife get her hair cut? If so, be sure to compliment her. Complimenting your wife on her appearance will increase her self-confidence. This, in turn, can improve experiences in the bedroom.
As important as it is to compliment your wife on her appearance, it is also important to remember to compliment her on other areas of your relationship. Do you notice that the house is clean? Has your wife prepared a nice dinner? If so, thank her for the job well done. This will not only help to improve your relationship in general, but it can have an impact on your experiences in the bedroom. All wives want to be wanted by their husband, they want to be attractive and a good wife.
3 – Seduce Her
What is sex like in your home? Does it occur like clockwork? Do you actually take the time to ask your wife if she wants to have sex? If so, try to refrain from doing so. Yes, you may be rejected, due to a headache or being tired, but why not take the chance? Be spontaneous. Seduce your wife. Make her want to have sex with you. Buy her some beautiful lingerie.
4 – Fulfill Her Fantasies
In keeping with seducing your wife, let her know that you want to fulfill her fantasies. It may take your wife a few times to open up about what she likes or fantasizes about sexually, but the information will likely come out soon. Give it your all to fulfill your wife’s sexual fantasies. It is also important to note that afterwards is the perfect time to share your fantasies and sexual desires with your wife. In end, you may all end up being much more pleased.
As you can see, there are a number of different ways that you can go about improving the intimacy in your relationship. Please remember, however, that you want to get started in someplace other than the bedroom. Sex in a marriage is about more and should be more than just the act itself. Taking the time to date and compliment your wife will more than pay off in the end.
Vixen
5 Easy Ways for Parents to Spice Up The Intimacy
Are you married? If you are, are you also a parent? If you are married and a parent, how is your sex life? Depending on the age of your children and the size of your family, it might not be great. Many parents wish that they had a better level of intimacy with their partner and on more occasions. If you are one of those individuals, there are a number of steps that you will want to take.
When it comes to intimacy in a relationship, it is important to remember that more than the bedroom and sex is and should be involved. Does your intimacy only get started when you climb into bed? If so, there may lay the problem.
If you are a parent, you will want to consider using the service of a babysitter. This will enable you and your spouse to get out of the house and enjoy time alone. In fact, you can even have a “real,” date. Go to dinner and a movie with your spouse. Unfortunately, many married couples find themselves entering into a comfort zone that results in their relationship feeling more like a friendship than a marriage. Do not let your relationship get to this point. Dating is a nice and easy way to prevent that from happening.
In addition to hiring a babysitter, rely on a trusted friend or family member. What is nice about taking this approach is the comfort level. Instead of picking a babysitter out of a phone book, you are entrusting the care of your children into someone that you know and trust. This alone can result in you having a better time on a date. You may also feel more comfortable leaving your children with a trusted friend or relative overnight, as opposed to an unknown babysitter. What does this mean? It means that in addition to enjoying a traditional date, you may also enjoy a nice, sexual night of privacy, possibly at a nice hotel.
In keeping with childcare that will allow you and your spouse to spend some romantic, intimate, and quality time together, consider approaching other parents. Do you know the parents of your children’s friends? If you do, consider making a monthly arrangement with them. Let them keep your kids for one night and you can do the same for them. This approach is nice, as you are likely to feel comfortable living your children in the care of another parent. Also, remember that all parents find it difficult to seek privacy and intimacy. You may be doing the other set of parents a huge favor.
As important as dating is and can be to your relationship, be realistic. Not every night can be a date night. With that said, there are still ways that you can be romantic and intimate with your spouse at home. For example, sneak in a few hugs and kisses here and here. When your wife is cooking dinner, walk up to her, rub her back, and plant a kiss on her. When your husband is walking past you, stop him and give him a quick kiss. A simple kiss is enough to show your partner that you care and want to be intimate with him, without making your children, who may be watching, feel uncomfortable or out of place.
Another unique and creative way to keep the romance and intimacy alive when you may be unable to have sex or go on a date is the use of text messages. Do you and your spouse have and use cell phones? If you do, send them a sexy and seductive text message. Let them know that you can’t wait until they arrive home. Even if your partner is sitting across the room from them, send them a quick message. If you do not own or use a cell phone, know that a handwritten love note can be just as effective.
As you can see, there are a number of ways that you, as parents, can still have a happy and healthy sex life. Implement a few of these steps to help keep your relationship and its romance alive and well.
Vixen
During a fight with my now ex, he told me that it is hard to spend time together until more money is coming in. I was very quick to call this BS. But it does come to my attention that it is difficult for some to come up with inexpensive dates. Here is a list that I have come up with and would enjoy doing any time.
1. Free Zoo Days
2. Free Museum Days- they are usually once a week.
3. Tour a winery and tasting. It doesn't cost to do a tasting usually or it is very inexpensive.
4. Hit a flea Market.
5. Hit a Farmers Market in the AM and cook in the PM.
6. Sunset Hike
7. Do a photography session. Pretend you are the photographer and snap away of your love.
8. Bicycle out to a picnic site.
9. Take a Historical Walk Tour of your town.
10. Attend the local Roller Derby
11. The Untraditional movie nite. IE. Casablanca
12. Go to dollar movies
13. Plan a game night at home . Play Monopoly and the loser makes dinner and cocktails
14. Start a main dish (pizza) then go to the store and give each person $5 to choose toppings.
15. Frisbee Golf
16. Mud Fight after it Rains. Of course you need to talk a romantic walk in the rain first.
17. Wash Cars together
18. Watch Sports on TV, or go to a college game or a rival high school game.
19. Go Rollerblading.
20. Volunteer together
21. Bake Together, cookies, banana bread, or pancakes
22. Read to one another
23. Create Dream Boards
24. Read Poetry to each other.
25. Draw Pictures with Sidewalk Chalk
26. Pillow fight
27. Home wine tasting or beer tasting.
28. Star Gazing: Check out a book at local library on astrology and learn a constilation.
29. Practice Reflexology : Print out of the foot and pressure points are available online.
30. Water Ballon fight
31. Walk dogs together: yours or your neighbors.
32. Go to Target /WalMart late at night and play with the toys.
33. Plant something together a tree, plant bush or start a new plant.
34. Play Wii, Playstation, or computer games together.
35. Go visit local planitarium. Most colleges have them and are open to the community.
36. Play capture the alien , tag or hopscotch, or cowboys and indians
37. Window shop in unusual places.
38. Go to the beach or lake. Most are free.
39. Go Play on a playground. Who can swing the highest?
40. Sneak into a resort pool area; if you get caught then you have a good story.
41. Teach her poker or another card game, once good at it play strip poker
42. Darts and learn how to play pool if you don't know already
43. Bubble Bath and body massages for each other at home.
44. Decadant desert: Homemade of course.
45. Online Movie night. Hulu.com
46. Go to a video arcade and play older games.
47. Road Trip/Daytrips are the least expensive.
48. Drive In Movie
49. Test drive Cars
50. Picnic
51. Amateur Night at comedy clubs
52. Check out a local band
53. Free Movies or Concerts
54. Play with animals at a Pet Shop
55. Attend a book reading
56. House Hunting for Dream house.
57. Attend a Progressive dinner party with other couples
58. GeoCashing. Geocaching is a treasure hunting game where you use a GPS to hide and seek containers with other participants in the activity
59. Go to IMAX
60. Tapas Bar
61. Bird Feeding-bring bread, a thermos of homemade lemonade or spiked icedtea.
62. Ride bikes. Rent them for $10hr. bikerentausa.com
63. Bubble blower, hulahoops, and/or Kite to park and play like kids
64. Experience a jazz club. Check out www.allaboutjazz.com to find local clubs
65. Cookingschools.com to find a cooking class.
66. Make a fondue. www.bestfoundue.com is a good reference
67. Skating Rink
68. Explore. Rent a four wheeler, scooter, or wave runner.
69. Float the River
70. Go to a thrift store each person gets $5. See who gets the cooler things
71. Love language. Take the 5 Love Language test and see how to improve the relationship. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/
72. Swim, either at your house, a local pool or hotel.
73. Make Indoor smore's and read campfire stories.
74. Play 20 questions
75. Make breakfast together.
76. Write a bucket list together.
77. Have Sex!!!!
78. Have phone Sex or just spend 15 min on the phone. Give undivided attention to your significant.
79. Go for a walk, run or workout together
80. Go to your local sex toy shop and look around. Explore.
These are just a few that I thought of. Please leave comments with your own ideas on how to spend time together inexpensively.
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